RCCG Sunday School Teacher Manual 18th April 2021 Lesson 33
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TOPIC: Sexual Intimacy In Marriage (Part 2)
OPENING PRAYER: Father, help all couples to build their family through wisdom from above. Let understanding prevail in every marriage. (Scroll down for RCCG Sunday School 18 April 2021 HYMN)
MEMORY VERSE: “Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:” – Proverbs 24:3
BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 KJV (RCCG Sunday School TEACHER Manual 18 April 2021)
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
RCCG Sunday School Teacher Manual 18th April 2021 Lesson 33
LESSON INTRODUCTION: We have learnt that sexual intimacy creates a special bond between a man and his wife with basic facts supported by scriptures and its numerous benefits. It is equally necessary to discuss some of the challenges facing couples in the area of sexual intimacy (SOS.5:1-6). It should be noted that in some homes or families certain problems or conflicts can be traced to unsatisfactory sexual relationship (1 Corinthians 7:2-5). The good news is that these challenges can be remedied.
TEXT REVIEW: 1 Corinthians 7:2-5.
Fornication is a menace which the devil employs to distract youths from marriage. It is the devil’s ploy to blindfold the youths from getting married.
The Almighty God provides some solutions to marital infidelity or formication and adultery. This, among others, is marriage. God said, let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:2.
Identify other five solutions to marital intimacy challenges as indicated in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5.
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LESSON OUTLINES
LESSON OUTLINE 1: LIKELY CAUSES OF SEXUAL INTIMACY CHALLENGES
While some challenges of sexual intimacy are spiritual, quite a lot of these challenges can be traced to the following:
i. Myths, misconception, wrong cultural orientations or unscriptural spiritual inclinations about sex, e.g. “women should not initiate sex or enjoy it”
ii. Fear of conceiving another baby. Some couples either lack the knowledge of appropriate family planning techniques or have refused to deploy the techniques that can prevent unwanted pregnancy. Hosea 4:6.
iii. Previous experiences of sexual abuse directly or indirectly.
iv. Libido (sex drive) issues or inadequate foreplay (inability to discover and/or explore the erogenous part of the body).
v. Health challenges which may either be physiological or psychological e.g erectile dysfunction, frigidity (cold-heartedness), not-in-the-mood syndrome, complications during childbirth, illness, etc.
vi. Infidelity and lack of trust. Heb.13:4.
vii. Sometimes, sexual appetite decreases in women after menopause whereas there is minimal decline in the sexual drive of men. Gen. 18:12.
viii. Lack of understanding of love languages and/or things that turn them on or off
ix. Communication issues and busy schedules.
x. Environmental factors – being conscious of the presence of a third party in the surrounding (children, relatives, neighbours, etc), unpleasant noise, etc.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1:
- The class should discuss how each of the ten items listed above should be addressed to overcome sexual intimacy challenges.
- The class should also discuss how the problem of sexual abuse could be prevented among the youth.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: SOME REMEDIES FOR SEXUAL INTIMACY CHALLENGES
i. Prayer: Couples should commit their sex life into God’s hand the same way they do for other aspects of their lives. This is a great antidote to demonic influences. Phil. 4:6-7.
ii. Counselling: It is not a shameful thing to seek medical/psychological help when faced with sexual intimacy challenges. Prov. 11:14; 24:6.
iii. Communications: If you observe that your sex life is on the decline, bring up the topic and talk it out. Amos 3:3.
iv. Time and stress management: Married couples should create time out of their tight schedules to be intimate and cut off stress-inducing factors as much as possible. Eccl. 3:1;8:6.
v. Self-development: Couples should look inward and work on their weakness and the immediate environment that could turn off either of the party. 2 Corinthians 13:5.
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: The class should discuss the role of adequate communication in marriage and sexual intimacy and the role of effective prayers as a tool to prevent the possibility of sexual intimacy challenges in future.
SUMMARY: The admonition of Apostle Paul to the couples in 1 Corinthians 7:3 which says “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband”, is a very good solution that if prayerfully applied can solve many sexual-intimacy challenges.
CONCLUSION: Avoiding your spouse especially in the area of sexual intimacy is creating a space that will be occupied by something or someone else.
EVALUATION: What are the challenges and solutions to sexual intimacy challenges?
CLOSING PRAYER: Father, help couples to humbly accept their faults and fathom out their marital intimacy challenges.
ASSIGNMENT: Identify five (5) causes of sexual intimacy challenges and solutions to the challenges.