RCCG Sunday School Students Manual 8 May 2022 | Lesson 36

RCCG Sunday School Students Manual 8 May 2022 | Lesson 35 | Bridging Marital Gaps

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LESSON THIRTY FIVE (36)
TOPIC: Bridging Marital Gaps

SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN
1. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.

1. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
   Thy friend friendship suits me well,
   Both young and will sing Thy song,
   We long for Sunday School.

2. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
   Christ was Thy first teacher,
   The Holy Spirit, great teacher,l
   Does manifest in thee.

3. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
   This testimony is sure,
   That God, the Father Almighty, oo
   Poured His blessing on Thee

4. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
   Though the sun be so bright,
   Or if the clouds be black with rain,
   I’ll be in Sunday School.

5. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day
   I rejoice to see Thee,
   Will thou pass over me today?
   Without my being blest?

MEMORY VERSE: “Neither give place to the devil” Ephesians 4:27.

BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 Corinthians 7:1-40.

RCCG Sunday School Students Manual 8 May 2022 INTRODUCTION:

God is the author of marriage (Gen.2:24) He designed it to bring glory to His name and also for man to enjoy. However many marriages today are not conforming to the will of God. Rather than bringing pleasure, many marriages are full of pains and tales of woes because of human choices made contrary to biblical blue prints. In this lesson we shall unravel some of the gaps prevalent in some marriages leading to unfaithfulness among couples.

RCCG Sunday School Students Manual 8 May 2022 OUTLINES:

1. FORMS OF MARITAL GAPS
2. SOME PRACTICAL WAYS TO BRIDGING THE GAPS

1. FORMS OF MARITAL GAPS
(a) Locational gaps. Long periods of absence, whether travelling for work or serving in the military, greatly reduces the opportunities couples have to properly bond. Examples are the Potiphars (Gen.39:5-7) and the Uriahs (2Sam.11). Long-distance marriage is not ideal.

(b) Emotional gaps. The feeling of insecurity and loneliness, whether emotional, physical or sexual, can create a gap between couples. The search for excitement to escape boredom and experiment with new things like adopting new hobbies or hanging out with new friends can affect the relationship between spouses.

(c) Poor boundaries. Poor personal boundaries, or the limits we place on other people as to what we find acceptable or unacceptable, can also result in marital gap.

(d) Revenge. The desire to pay back the wrong doing of a partner in the ‘same coin’ can result in marital gap.

(e) Sexual gaps. Many partners in marital relationship are not enjoying sex or getting satisfaction sexually. They are only enduring and coping because their spouses are not sensitive to their sexual needs. Regardless of the gender, having an uninteresting sex life could put your relationship at risk of infidelity.

(f) Financial gaps. When the financial orientation of the couple differs and both parties fail to reach a compromise as to how money should be managed, there is bound to be conflicts which may negatively affect the union.

(g) Physical/physiological gaps. There are also situations where a couple do not pay attention to each other or do not live like a normal couple, go out together or have a passionate relationship. Eventually, one or both of them look outside their relationship for someone whom they want to be with (Mal.2:14-16).

(i) Communication gaps. Communication is one of the most fundamental components of a successful relationship. If you cannot talk to your spouse and listen to what he or she has to say, you will have a hard time making it through the difficult hurdles in your marriage. Not being able to share secrets, stories and feelings with their spouses can lead some people to open up to others emotionally.( RCCG Sunday School Students Manual 8 May 2022)

(j) Excessive use of the internet and social media. Connecting with other people and talking or chatting with them for hours at length at home, work or even in some public spaces at the expense of your spouse can extend the gap in your relationship.

2. SOME PRACTICAL WAYS TO BRIDGING THE GAPS
You can take your relationship to the next level by practically taking some steps to bridge the gaps.
1.Avoid living separately in the name job offer or searching for ‘greener pasture’.

2.Understand your spouse’s love languages i.e. ask and do things that make them want to be with you the more e.g. holding of hands.

3.Go out together on dates; visit other families, friends and colleagues together.

4.Commend the good things your spouse does..

5.Condemn what is bad in love (not the person but the act) and apologise correctly. Give no room to the devil (Eph.4:27).

6.Handle matters discreetly and immediately

7.Celebrate each other, exchange gifts regularly and create a conducive atmosphere for God’s presence in your homes (Ps.133:1).

RCCG Sunday School Students Manual 8 May 2022 CONCLUSION:

Marriages succeed on intentional effort and purposeful choices made by the partners to make it heaven on earth.

RCCG Sunday School Students Manual 8 May 2022 QUESTIONS:

1. What are the forms of marital gaps?
2. Mention five (5) practical ways of bridging marital gaps.

FURTHER READING: MON: Job 11:14, TUE: Ps.103:12, WED: Prov.10:19, THUR: Job 8:11, FRI: Prov.6:27, SAT: Isa.35:10, SUN: Hos.2:7

ASSIGNMENT: Identify any five (5) reasons marital bond should be embraced or why marital gaps should be avoided.

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